Because the majority of adults do not know themselves, how to avoid the problem of Unplanned Pregnancy (UP).
Our sex-taboo culture skirts around such issues, and the problems this attitude causes, pile up. Dropping out of school due to UP or abortion, for instance, would probably never occur if we – the adults – knew and shared with our children, the simple knowledge about avoiding UP using only a variety of natural methods.
Instead, and now without Parental sanction, it seems, the State proposes the Pill for all teenage girls. Popping in the pill, however, puts the Responsibilityfor our own actions elsewhere. The subject, by right, should first be thought through as a serious family matter at home, because every so often, the natural embarrassment of talking about sex at schools, just makes the subject a laughing matter, thereby trivialising it.
Some might also argue, that for young developing adults who are beginning to experience hormonal changes, it is very difficult to simply educate them in sexual matters; and then to tell them not to actually behave sexually, is ludicrous. No other subject is taught in this manner, so it is little wonder that the rate of teenage pregnancy has risen and continues to rise alarmingly.
The natural methods advocated, are proven, simple, easy to understand, and most importantly, they work, despite the fact that the opposite, State-sponsored drug-based option is the solution of choice selected by the various Authorities involved with the children’s health and education, thereby attempting to remove such welfare and moral choices from the family’s control.
Here are only a few of the Benefits we get by knowing how to avoid UP using natural methods:
- No health implications (such as – state one or two)
- No dropping out of school
- No abortion
- No abortion side effects
- No losing a job
- No losing a trained employee
- No forced marriages or relationships
- Saving thousands of $$$ on contraceptive drugs and others prescribed for the relief of their side effects annually.
- …
The list goes on. Please email us your own points of concern. We plan to publish them on our Blog. Please be assured, Your Anonymity is Guaranteed.
In November 2008 I sent an email to a few of my Ning Social Network friends with a subject, “What is More Important Education or Training? Well, to help you answer this think, would you prefer your teenage daughters to have sex training or sex education?“ You can read the entire email on our Blog, http://youchoosewhen.wordpress.com/ You will find it at the bottom of the page - the second one up.
We received 87 replies:
40 were for Education
4 were for Training
6 said both Education and Training
1 said neither
5 wrote “no comment”
9 didn´t understand the question
22 didn´t answer the question, but expressed their support of our Global Awareness Campaign and our approach to the subject.
Here is a sample of 24 thought provoking replies:
A female reader wrote.
“Actually it’s all education. The deeper issue is in how any topic is presented and the objectives that are trying to be acheived.
A male reader wrote:
“I personally think that education is very,very important children and even some adults need to be educated so they can make the right choices because they have an idea of what the outcome of different situations will be before indulging themselves.”
A female reader wrote:
“To inform young teenagers seems to me the best way to start with.
Now this info needs also to be shared within the family and Mom and Dad should play their role whenever appropriate.
But don’t anticipate if no question comes up..It means that they don’t need any answer for the moment but between 11 and 16 years old, there should be a time for this.”
Now this info needs also to be shared within the family and Mom and Dad should play their role whenever appropriate.
But don’t anticipate if no question comes up..It means that they don’t need any answer for the moment but between 11 and 16 years old, there should be a time for this.”
A female reader wrote.
“Well Pett, I have 5 yr old, and i know when she does start school……….high school, I do not want her in any sex education classes. I want to be able to talk to my daughter and take her to get the help she needs if sex becomes a part of her mind. what people fail to realize is that when the teachers talk to these students about sex, it is a game for them just another line on their check, they tend to laugh it out with the students and when the bell ring it’s a “stop the conversation and i’ll see you later” situation. in the home with me and my girls, time is all i have and i don’t want to leave them with a laugh….I can say that about the teachers because I am 24 and i gratuated in 2003 all of the high school talk is still a little fresh in my mind. these teachers some of them don’t care about the students, if they did half of the girls around here who look at their teachers as role models, who don’t have anyone to care for them at the home will not be having kids of their own.”
A female reader wrote:
“Thanks for the info Pett
A male reader wrote:
“Pett,
I think that a good sex education is the best to prevent troybke in the future.
and for sure if the kids see it as anormal beautiful thing to have sex when you are old enough for it,
a good education to teeld hem , that they have to do it safe, to prevent not only babys , and not to forget te spreading of sikness.
so personly I am for a good education for my kids, and not from a school teacher, from the parents self, so probably we have to reuducate the adultes.”
I think that a good sex education is the best to prevent troybke in the future.
and for sure if the kids see it as anormal beautiful thing to have sex when you are old enough for it,
a good education to teeld hem , that they have to do it safe, to prevent not only babys , and not to forget te spreading of sikness.
so personly I am for a good education for my kids, and not from a school teacher, from the parents self, so probably we have to reuducate the adultes.”
A female reader wrote:
“I’ve spoken to my little one about this and she is very much aware of unwanted pregnancies etc. Luckily we have a great relationship to speak about topics like this.”
A male reader wrote:
“Well for people who were the “Flower-children of the 60’s and 70’s this was not a big question to answer, – it was simply “BOTH”. However then the RRR “reclaimed” the brains of the masses and made now this topic un-discussable.”
A female reader wrote:
“As parents we just need to be detailed, and honest but tactful. Better they find out from someone they love. Than from someone in lust. Nobody thinks straght when lust is involved.”
A male reader wrote:
“You pose an interesting question. From my perspective, when I speak of education, I mean from a parent to a child – teaching what is proper – whether that mean premarital celibacy, different methods of enjoyment or protected sexual conduct.
A female reader wrote:
“Having once been a teenaged daughter, and having a teenaged son, I think sex education is vital. If parents are not going to teach their children how to be responsible about sex, then schools need to. The thought of abstinence only is ridiculous. Teens are full of raging hormones and without proper education, they will get into trouble.”
A male reader wrote:
“I think education is best. There are so many ways to be sexually stimulated and pleased with out any worry of pregnacy. Having met young men and women that have been taught these and listened to their responses. It the act of love, and gentleness that get the best response. This shows through out all aspects of a relationship. Nice topic!”
A female reader wrote:
“I would perfer education but on the other end of possibilities I would want her to know how it feels to get out of her bed and feel the wrath of having to get up to go to school and work a job she doesn’t want to work. I would want mine to feel what it would feel like to take a job just so her child can eat. I would want her to know what it feels like to have a child and can not feed them. Then she would think twice about her actions.”
A male reader wrote:
“I tink it is exstremely importance that teenager have some kind od sex education it prepare them on how to make or perhaps chose somewhat chosing their partner and have some working knowledge about sex and where it will lead you in life.”
A female reader wrote:
“I don’t have any children; but, if I had teenage daughters, I would “self-educate” them myself about sex, because children are being exposed to sex at an early age.
A male reader wrote:
“I would say education. Education consist of theories and practice. The training is primarily practice.”
A female reader wrote:
“I think sex education is better than sex training. Sex Training them is in way telling them how to have sex. Sex education will teach them to prepare themselves forit.”
A female reader wrote:
“Education most definitely is more important. You can be trained to do anything but will never fully understand why you are doing it. We grow from knowledge.”
A male redaer wrote:
“Pett
You have some very good valid points! To answer your question: I would rather have my child take sex education than sex training!”
You have some very good valid points! To answer your question: I would rather have my child take sex education than sex training!”
A famale reader wrote:
“I THINK EDUCATION IS A PRIORITY AND YOU CAN ALWAYS GET TRAINING…ANYWHERE“
A female reader wrote:
“All children when they are to the secondary school, they learn about human body with breeding “reproduction”. AND Their parent MUST explain them what can they doing when they have girlfriend or boyfriend. It’s enough as education. They don’t need having sex Training or sex Education. But anyway, it so bad to see any teenager start having sexual to secondary school!!!!”
A male reader wrote.
“If this is about abstinence alone, it’s not going to work. It never has throughout the past. Education can help, but it’s not going to stop the drive.”
A male reader wrote:
“Dear Pett Corby
My, what an Excellent Job you have done on the you-choose-when website and Your Awareness Campaign!!!! I paused when you asked the question regarding Mutual Consent. That is the basis of education, is it not? If there is no mutual yes or no communication before a man and a woman have sex, and if not only the feelings, but the thoughts, words, and actions are not mutual, well, you have created the basis for an unwanted child. So, I would agree with you; education is key. Unfortunately in society there are usually stigmas or preconceived notions attached to sex, education, and especially sex education. To avoid this, simply, I would break down education one step further into the idea of RESPECT.
When little girls and little boys learn at a young age to respect themselves and eachother, as they mature, if the level of respect is maintained, and due to the high self love and self esteem, their relationships will be healthier and happier and sex will never be used to control or to manipulate, that is, the needs and wants of both partners will be that much more clearly defined because of the high levels of Trust, Respect, and most importantly Love. Would you agree?
Society as a whole benefits Incredibly when individuals such as yourself take a stand and Create Awareness at the magnitude that you have done. Thank you from the depths of My Heart for making this issue Your Life’s Mission. Words Cannot Express Deeply Enough How Wonderful It Is and How Many Innocent Lives Will Be Saved As A Result.
You Are Loved Beyond Measure“
My, what an Excellent Job you have done on the you-choose-when website and Your Awareness Campaign!!!! I paused when you asked the question regarding Mutual Consent. That is the basis of education, is it not? If there is no mutual yes or no communication before a man and a woman have sex, and if not only the feelings, but the thoughts, words, and actions are not mutual, well, you have created the basis for an unwanted child. So, I would agree with you; education is key. Unfortunately in society there are usually stigmas or preconceived notions attached to sex, education, and especially sex education. To avoid this, simply, I would break down education one step further into the idea of RESPECT.
When little girls and little boys learn at a young age to respect themselves and eachother, as they mature, if the level of respect is maintained, and due to the high self love and self esteem, their relationships will be healthier and happier and sex will never be used to control or to manipulate, that is, the needs and wants of both partners will be that much more clearly defined because of the high levels of Trust, Respect, and most importantly Love. Would you agree?
Society as a whole benefits Incredibly when individuals such as yourself take a stand and Create Awareness at the magnitude that you have done. Thank you from the depths of My Heart for making this issue Your Life’s Mission. Words Cannot Express Deeply Enough How Wonderful It Is and How Many Innocent Lives Will Be Saved As A Result.
You Are Loved Beyond Measure“
A male reader wrote:
“Yes, I think that we need to teach the younger generation to be more resposible. Think about the
results of their decisions before they make them. I believe in being responsible for ones own actions. EDUCATION definitely BEFORE training. We’ve all seen what happens during “TRAINING DAY”. (lol)”
results of their decisions before they make them. I believe in being responsible for ones own actions. EDUCATION definitely BEFORE training. We’ve all seen what happens during “TRAINING DAY”. (lol)”
Lets there be fewer Unplanned Pregnancies in the years to come.
Warm regards,
Pett
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Here are some remarks provided by a recent respondent in support of our campaign. My thanks to that lady, who didn´t sign her name, for her contribution, which is:
“I would prefer that they can be educated by sex training, and sex education. I really don’t care how they are being educated by sex; the bottom line, they know what is up, and what to do about it.
Back in the days, some parents didn’t know how to explain sex to teenagers; when you ask, some might say, “child, get out of my face”, or act as if they don’t know what you’re talking about. My experience was that either I learned from books, friends, the streets, and experience first hand.”
We are all wired to have sex, well most are, so we need to prepare the next generation as to the pitfalls associated with premature activity that can lead to so many complications including disease and unwanted pregnancy, and even death.
During school, children are taught some sexual information, but in my opinion, the parents should have already been preparing their child for the realities that seems to face our youth at a younger and younger age.
When I think of training in regard to this subject matter, I would image learning methods to grow more intimate with your partner and learn to heighten and help each other achieve the ultimate experience. Obviously this would be for older, more mature individuals.
While this is a sensitive topic – the bottom line is – people have sex, so if they learn from the medical facts and/or experiences of others help them to make the correct decisions as they proceed through life, I am all for it.”
I am a mom of six…blended family and I believe my greatest passion in life is to be a great mom and mentor!
Four of our children are in teen (one is 21) and we speak openly to our children about being in Loving Relationships!
Thanks again for Standing out in a Crowd!”
In the case of sex education, I would prefer my teenaged daughter to be properly informed about the risks involved in having sex and all that goes with being sexually active. Unfortunately, I did not have parents who felt comfortable enough to properly discuss sex with me. As a result, I learned by experimenting as most teenagers do. Thank God I was fortunate enough not to become pregnant. That was purely by the grace of God.
More importantly, I believe it’s important to educate parents in order that training begins at home. When these topics are presented in school, social settings, T.V., etc., they become either confirmation of the truth of consequences.”
